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So, our president-in-waiting Jacob Zuma "likes women …" And ditto for that tall, dark and mysterious gentleman currently warming his seat, President Kgalema Motlanthe. Hurrah! So there, I've said it. It's high time someone spoke up on behalf of these beleaguered gentlemen, whose predilection for the fleshy delights of the fairer sex is seeing them being lambasted and lampooned in the press not only here but across the world. Zuma has come in for a particular hammering, owing to his tendency not just to luuuuv the ladies but to collect them. And so the pundits and feminists are in a frenzy. Who will be the first lady? Who will pay for her outfits? What about Aids? And then, of course, the old anti-polygamy treatises will be brought out of retirement and rehashed -- you know, polygamy is against "morality", blah blah blah. As many of these selfsame pundits and "feminists" will know -- particularly those whose husbands keep mistresses on the side -- pulling the morality card is the refuge of the scoundrel. A last resort where other arguments haven't held water. Just whose morality are we speaking of here? A white Anglo-Saxon ideal that praises über alles that great ideal to aspire to: the nuclear family (oh joy!)? There is something more than slightly patronising in the assumption that alternative lifestyle choices are contra bonos mores(contrary to good morals). Not to mention how slighted I feel as a woman at the suggestion that "having" women is a vice, right up there with a crack problem and syphilis. If "having women" in any way had an impact on or impaired the ability of the man in question to perform his (non-coitus-related) duties, it's time someone produced the proof. Some of the world's greatest athletes are known womanisers, not to mention some of the sweetest-sounding musicians. One shudders to think how many mistresses fuelled the passions that spawned some of the greatest novels of all time … Everyone knew JFK had a harem, his lovely wife notwithstanding. Did anyone suggest he was unfit to be president of the United States? Hardly. In fact, he remains lauded in history as one of the country's finest. So, one wonders, can someone, as they say, "look like a joller"? You know, a twinkle in the eye, carnation in the button-hole, as in the days of yore. JFK certainly looked the part. So does Zuma, what with that gregarious laugh, that generous midriff and the natty suits. Not sure people would figure the lanky and bespectacled Motlanthe for a lady's man, though. He looks too serious. As for me, I'm all for being led by a "lady lova". In the case of our man, Zuma, a man who not only keeps a harem, but won't go to sleep without satisfying them. As he testified in his rape trial, he couldn't just leave the lady hanging … "And I said to myself that I knew as we grew up in the Zulu culture that you didn't just leave a woman in that situation …" Not to mention that with all those fetching Zulu matrons to satisfy he'll have no time to invade other countries, start wars or crash the economy. There is something to be said about the time on George W Bush's hands. Maybe if Laura had kept him busier he wouldn't have wreaked so much havoc on the world. The image of Zuma as the playa, the Daddy Mack, of course plays into unfortunate stereotypes about "The African Leader". And splaying those voluminous thighs on the front page of the Sunday Times hasn't helped much. But hey, he ain't no Jean-Bédel Bokassa. Or a Mobutu Sese Seko. Or even a Bush … Despite the assegais and skins, it seems our man's a lover, not a fighter … TOPICS IN THIS ARTICLE
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Drawing a parallel between the terrorist JFK and cuddly care-taker Kgalema is somewhat unfortunate. But in light of his comments about Zimbabwe and the rand, perhaps Motlanthe does harbour imperial ambitions.
Greg Penfold on February 12, 2009, 9:38 am
Khadija you write "As many of these selfsame pundits and 'feminists" will know - particularly those whose husbands keep mistresses on the side o puling a morality card is the refuge of the scoundrel.' - What are you suggesting? stop the talk, let's have an orgy instead?
The you move into the racial diatribe of Anglo Saxon morality. Not all African approve of or encourage polygamy; and in the same breath no one can legally stop anyone from practicing poligamy.
Kaycee Potong on February 12, 2009, 10:08 am
In Jacob Zuma we are looking for a president who can lead South Africa.He meets the requirements. So I have no problem with him becoming a President.In K Motlante we have a Caretaker President and so far so good.When we want a Minister of Religion we will say so and it is then that we will look at the attributes of a minister of religion.People should drop that morality crap as none of us have that one way or the other.Morality depends on which side of the fence you are standing on. So let us drop the holy cow nonsense. Sipiwo Pahlane.
Sipiwo Pahlane on February 12, 2009, 11:09 am
Lovely article! Sadly the comments above all indicate that we still live in an overly uptight "we are all victims of something or other" society.
@Greg - not everything on this planet that is outside of your world view is an imperialist plot. Not every European or European descendant is a colonialist. Its more complicated than that. @ Kaycee - lighten up! Sexuality is fun, its interesting and again its complicated. Male virility/prowess does not take anything away from women. Scrutinise your morality, there is much about Victorian values (i.e. Anglo Saxon morality) that can make you unnecessarily unhappy. Which fork you use to eat is irrelevant all of the time. Having to chose a single life partner is irrelevant some of the time.
Big Bob Igor on February 12, 2009, 12:52 pm
Loverboy president JFK didn't overburden taxpayers with the cost of maintaining multiple wives, kids and households. let's face it, this family ain't going to shop at Ackermans and Jet, now are they? As far as I'm concerned JZ can sow his plentiful seed as he sees fit but I do have a problem with having to foot the bill for his and his extended families' extravagant lifestyle.
WENDY SPIRO on February 12, 2009, 2:31 pm
Well said Khadija!!! It's so refreshing to hear a different view that is not trying to be politically correct. What a President does in his personal/private life is none of anybody's business. If women want to be part of a multiple-partner arrangement I say it's their choice. That a man has more than one wife or partner has absolutely no relationship with his leadership qualities. Women also have extra-marital affairs, and those affairs have no bearing whatsoever on their lives as employees, managers, executives etc. It's a free country. Kaycee, don't have an orgy - but please don't judge me for wanting an orgy!!!
Owami Ndlovu on February 12, 2009, 3:26 pm
Yep, private lives are private lives - as long as the bills are kept private too - I'd like to know what the limits are in terms of allowances, residenses, bodyguards, transport, etc when it comes to the president, multiple wives and children.
But if JZ can find some kind person to foot the bills (and he has a history of success with that), then what the heck. Let him have 100 wives, what business is it of ours? But really, there are many, much more compelling reasons not to want JZ to be president. All strength to the NDPP. KM for president!
Rob Mousley on February 12, 2009, 4:56 pm
"There is something more than slightly patronising in the assumption that alternative lifestyle choices are contra bonos mores(contrary to good morals)."
And there is something unbelievably arrogant in the assumption that you and your philandering sexist political leaders know better!
Brencis Price on February 12, 2009, 10:48 pm
Oh dear! How hypocritical we are. Most of the comments seem to miss the point of the article, which is that we are all quick to find fault with and condemn JZ, whilst revering JFK with not so much as a thought for his clandestine peccadillo’s or his morality.
It is a bit like someone condemning someone for taking drugs while sipping on their own glass of whisky. I am not a JZ fan, but all too often I find him being condemned unfairly, even convicted in the public’s mind for crimes that no-one has yet been able to prove, despite some nine years of trying. Oh yes, we are all experts on his guilt, but sadly we make these judgements based purely on emotion and without any real knowledge of the facts. At least he hasn’t had any of his wives put to death, or defied Rome and started a new church so that he could divorce them, or had to lie about clandestine affairs with them. Why, one could have written may juicy tales about the members of our own previous Government, but of course one didn’t dare – they were too oppressive and frightening for anyone to cross on such minor matters. I just wish I had written something along the lines of this article first.
Rob Pienaar on February 12, 2009, 10:58 pm
Only yourself know what you talking about...the rest of us are saying:
Hands-off JZ!!!
on February 13, 2009, 12:44 pm
Culture,personal choice, public expenditure concerns aside, it is common knowledge that cumulative tendencies are a proxy indicator of greed. This is a quality of concern for someone who is going to have power over national resources; material or otherwise.
Mbuya Munlo.
mbuya mbuya on February 13, 2009, 5:18 pm
Our future president can have the ladies queueing up outside his door for all I care.
It is however the fact that his attitude towards women and how they should be treated that is in question as well as that this is on top of the fact that his choice in friends is suspect, he cannot manage his financial affairs and that there are many questions about his honesty and integrity. Putting that all together makes us the laughing stock of the world should we vote for such a nitwit as a president, a president who may be in office whilst having to go to court to try and prove himself innocent in a legal matter. Nowhere but in South Africa can such idiocy occur.
Lejane Hardy on February 17, 2009, 6:53 am
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Not always above board: everyone knew JFK had a harem, despite his lovely wife. (Photo: AP)
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